Saturday (April 21st) is my birthday...Thank You Lord! As I approach 41 years of life, I am realizing how much of me I have given to people and how little of me I've given to God....WOW!!!
In our first week together, I talked to you about "emotional vampires". Do you know how they were born? From those of us who have "Savior Syndrome"! We spend so much time being people-pleasers that we forget our life assignment is greater than us and them. God does want you to show love by helping others, but not to the degree that you have no time to bring Him a return on the investment He has made in you.
Have you ever found yourself exerting more energy into someone else's life, dreams, and issues than they do? How about when you have set your schedule for the week and there's just no available time to be there for them? Do they get upset with you? Well practice this...stand in front of a mirror, put your hands on the center of your chest and say aloud, "I'm OK with that".
First of all, this practice prevents you from keeping score and stealing credit that doesn't belong to you. While helping someone is an awesome gesture that we should carry out, we should never get to the point where we resent helping others because we have allowed ourselves to be used up by them.
Do what you CAN for people. Do not let people CAN you. In this human experience there are those who will box you in, keep you in their pocket, for you to only be used by them, if you allow it. No one person deserves that kind of liberty in your life. Although we are made in the image of God, we are not Him. We have to learn to be OK with not being everything to everyone...only He can do that. And we have to BE OK WITH THAT!
Sis you right on point. I didn't know you were there.lol. Whatever happens I'm ok with that. I'm so proud of you.
ReplyDeleteSo true. I feel terrible at times, when Im unable to do what id like to do for others. It's like everyone wants a piece of you and sometimes makes you feel rotten but ive learned its ok to say no and "something new....whatever happens im ok with that". Thanx for reinforcing.
ReplyDeleteThanks for that from now on I'm ok with that.
ReplyDeleteLove the reminder of our first lesson as adults "first things first". Cosign there is nothing wrong with being a blessing to others, we being human get tripped up in stressing WHILE blessing. Thanks for saying what we only think of "it's OK to put me first". Hurt people can't help hurt people.
ReplyDeleteBlessings